Do You want your children to look after you when you are old?

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A very interesting topic was discussed over the local radio this morning. Five people were interviewed whether they wanted to be taken care of by their children when they are old. All five didn't think they want them children to look after them.and the reasons they give was logical and make sense.

Times have changed. Those days when parents feel that their kids owe it to them - like pay back time is not the acceptable trend now. Well maybe those interviewed didn't represent the majority of us parents in Malaysia.

Personally, i beg to agree with those interviewees.

When the time comes for me to be totally dependable on others, then that is the time when i will check myself into any daycare home. Very clinical ya. Yes, I think so too. But let's face it. When the time comes to be dependable on others for your everyday things, how sincere are they in wanting to get things done as you wished them to be? I have seen in many cases of children being short tempered and impatient with their elderly dependants.

Old people are most sensitive in a lot of things. Sometimes to the point being stubborn in wanting to get things done their way. But believe me, lets looks at things from their point of view. They do want things done in a certain way because that is the only way they know how to get things done. From their perspective, it had worked before, why won't it this time around? its that  feeling of security, safeness that is upmost in the minds of the elderly. Try teaching old dogs new treats- it doesn't work.

So, if any of my 4 children are reading this, remember this message of mine. Just tuck me in any good old folks home, I will be okay. No hard feelings ya. I will be okay.

Mum is being discharged

At this very moment, mum's discharge papers are being sorted out.
Alhamdullilah.
Almost a month at the hospital. Initially its just infection of the lungs. Then complications detected. The doctors think its there is a cyst in mak's liver- malignant . But can't be too sure because they are not doing any biopsy on her .Her age and condition doesn't permit it. So, we don't know for sure what is actually lurking down there in her liver.

Ya Allah. Sesunguhnya ujian yang Engkau sediakan untuk ibuKu adalah amat berat sekali. Ku Mohon kepada mu, kasihani lah dia seperti mana dia mengasihani kami semasa kami masih kecil. Ringankanlah beban yang ditanggungnya.Sesungguhnya Engkau maha pengampum maha penyayang. Ameen aameen yarabalameenn.

Teaching Days are Over

Am done with teaching! For good! My last session was last week. Wanted to post earlier but too many events happening at the same time. Sick. Down with a bad bout of fever and cough. Congested chest. Still coughing away.Need a lot of rest and liquid to flush out those baddies.
The next few days will be to sort out all these notes on this notebook. Clearing out.
Probably will want to sit down, sort out the thousands of photos and videos in storage. Sort them out and probably too will want to write about my journey since I started out in 1981. Maybe pictorial journeys. Should do that while I still can.